Clothes and Social Stuff
My sons are good for my mental health. They say that in medieval Europe, you protected the female nobility in times of war because if all the male nobility died, the female nobility were the best educated people with some hope of providing leadership. They say they read some misogynistic garbage online about how weak women are and think to themselves "You've never met my mother."
Somewhere, there's a project called something like "What she was wearing." displaying clothes similar to what the victim was wearing when they were sexually assaulted. People tend to take it especially hard when they get to the pieces about what was worn when a child was assaulted.
I write elsewhere that Child Abusers Lie and the primary reason a given child gets molested by a particular person is Access and Opportunity. If it involves a child, the adult is behaving badly full stop.
Please don't pretend I'm saying "legal minor under age 18." We legally make a distinction between child molestation and statutory rape. I've written about statutory rape and other circumstances where someone is not in a position to give meaningful consent elsewhere, such as:
If you are a career woman working with an actual bonafide serial rapist, your best hope is denying him access and opportunity as I did when I stopped attending meetings to avoid a man clearly unwilling to take no for an answer.
How you dress will not make one bit of difference with a serial rapist. Please note that "rape" has different definitions in different jurisdictions and I use the word to mean "Someone forced themselves on you."
Date rape typically involves alcohol and no violence. Rape at work may involve implied threats of ruining your career and absolutely no physical force whatsoever, per my piece called The Suckitude.
For the first time in my life, just after my 60th birthday some months back, I was violently assaulted by a random stranger and had to defend myself. I ultimately concluded he likely thought I was alone under circumstances where my screams were unlikely to be heard and therefore he believed he had access and opportunity to commit gang rape with his buddy.
I wrote about that on, of all places, my astrology site and said in closing:
I desperately wish planet Earth would EXECUTE people like that and then leave the rest of us dealing with problems like "How do I dress appropriately for work so I can get a promotion?" and NOT wasting countless hours arguing about whether or not she was asking for it.
I don't expect any woman to have any interest in paying me for clothes that are pretty and not fit for selling yourself as a prostitute. I've said that on this site previously.
It's reality that men ask and women say yes or no. Since women aren't supposed to ask, the entire goddamned planet knows women dress sexy in hopes their husband will take a hint or when going clubbing and hoping to see action.
And it's reality that not a single goddamned store in the entire US sells pretty clothes that don't look like you're hooking. You can't find T-SHIRTS that cover your jugs without shopping in the MEN'S department.
So you can either look like a frigid man hating bitch with no taste and no self esteem OR A WHORE.
And then we blame the failure of women to get taken seriously at work on "Men are ALL SEXIST PIGS!" and act like telling women "You could try dressing like you're NOT A WHORE." as blaming the victim because everyone knows how she was dressed isn't why she was RAPED.
So Doreen Traylor can STFU with her absolutely insane bullshit that dressing pretty but not sexy could possibly have ANY bearing whatsoever on being taken seriously at your office job. Bitch is clearly a dope smoking misogynist, duh.
I probably know more than you do about sexual assault. I've studied it for a lot of years and written two college papers on date rape.
For the record: I don't do drugs and rarely have alcohol. Come up with some other inane excuse to adamantly insist on dressing like a whore because that's what you believe is socially acceptable while whining and crying about rape culture and how it's all Da Menz doing and then claiming I'm obviously nutso.
Insert some joke about a male boss in an advertising company asking his secretary "How much?", her getting all offended and him replying "Then how about you stop advertising it?"